This past weekend, got a chance to connect with some closet friends and had a great time with them. And while the iPad did make a solid appearance, and had its own space to be part of the show; the benefit of things was the fact that I was able to put the devices down.
Mobile devices are indeed something well entrenched into the fabric of many of our social moments. There’s calling people, sending pictures and messages, checking in to social networks, and even getting information about things going on around you. In some respects, mobile can play as that extended appendage.
And then there’s that other side of it where mobile is a distraction. You know, you are in that big quiet room and then someone’s mobile goes off. Or, you are in that family gathering and just the appearance of a mobile during that time sends the conversation and eyes of those around you into a sour place. Mobile is an extension, but in some places, that muscle better not be stretched so far.
The latter aspect of mobile was noted to me this weekend by a teenager. She likes her mobile, she likes what mobile can do. But she expressed how her parent’s use of mobile sometimes makes her feel as if she doesn’t count. I can remember being told similar by frinds when I’ve been too attached to my mobile and so it made me stand up and take notice. I started looking at how the parents used their mobile and it was definitely a mirror moment.
What was the reflection? Mobile is a solitary experience. There’s no amount of social networking that can take away from the feeling that others around you get when you dive into that small screen and take care of whatever it is that you want to deal with – but isolates you from those who desire/need you attention.
What causes us to go into that space and not even realize that others are being left out of our lives? The spiritual answer is pride, but I’d rather stay away from that for the moment. I’d like to ask about the perception of the user. When you are using your mobile, do you have any recognition of people around you? Do you pay attention to those times you are diving into your mobile where others are invested into your attention or time?
I know several project mangers who have spoken at length about this and it was simply hard for them to recognize initially. They were focused on a task that reached over into another place and time, and lost focus on the right-now. Many times, when they got back to that place of recognition, they realized all the time they left from loved ones. All the time they missed getting things done because they simply wanted to answer a notification and got lost soon after.
The solution is simple. Pay more attention to your surroundings and make the decision to put your device down. Just put it down and pay attention to your family, the fresh air, your congregation, your business… to God. Fathelessness can also happen when you are sitting right beside your daughter, more entrenched into Twitter than you are into them. Hope this blesses you.
New Media Project: Lament of Attention
Sunday, October 9th, 2011A similar sentiment is taken in a recent post at the New Media Project at Union Seminary’s blog. Dr. Byassee’s piece, Lament of Attention, describes some of what this very present issue looks like:
So then, what is to be made of this acquisition and approach to a technological lifestyle that begs of us its attention, but our spirit and health demand otherwise? Or, to quote the signature that I’ve had for years at the Brighthand forums, “if your smartphone is so smart, then why are you spending so much time learning it? Shouldn’t it learn you and adapt to your leanings?” Yes, part of that is about learning the technology, and programming it to respond to us accordingly – yet, another part of that is taking account of our own lives and making that time to meditate, contemplate, regard, and retool.
As I write this, I’m reminded of something that I wrote in response to a question about the Sabbath over at Holy Culture Radio’s forums:
When I wrote that, I was thinking specifically about the times that we should take to consider that God’s provision for us in all matters has to be considered. Our provision in this context can be considered an over-abundance of information. Somehow, in the midst of some working the land, we’ve got to take time to consider our steps (Joshua 1:8, Proverbs 3:5-6), and that means the activity we instigate of taking ourselves from those streams and putting ourselves elsewhere – usually in shut-off place. When we do this, we allow for our minds, hearts, and bodies to receive a kind of provision that just isn’t able to be met in the opulence of attention.
Maybe, this attempt to address the increase and impression of attention in our lives has to sit in a similar vein as humbleness – humbling ourselves under the observed and soverign hand of God, looking forward to not us finding that thing to be noticed, but that he would open us up to those opportunities that present themselves as He wwills (1 Peter 5:6).
PS: looking at the picture chosen for this piece, its almost too ironic the caption to it.
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